Wordsworth said, “If you have a good friend, you don`t need a mirror.” Blessed is the marriage in which both spouses feel that the other is a good friend, who listens, understands and gets through any problem or conflict. To do it well, you need a loving confrontation. A difference in temperament with regard to whether a partner is a thrifty donor or another a large donor, a great change in financial priorities and preferences, and a bubbling feeling of resentment on the part of a working spouse vis-à-vis the self-employed, non-contributory, financially dependent spouse also leads to marital conflicts. Conflict is a normal part of marriage. No matter how much you and your spouse love each other, you won`t see everything on an equal footing. From time to time, you can`t necessarily argue that something is wrong with your marriage, but how you and your spouse handle your disagreements plays an important role if you stay together for the long term. Fortunately, healthy conflict resolution is a ability that everyone can learn. You can resolve issues with your spouse by talking to you honestly, fighting fairly, and finding ways to avoid unnecessary conflict in the future. We all need the freedom to complain to our spouse. We must also ensure that our spouse knows that he or she has the right to complain to us. In a healthy marriage, there is a freedom of speech that allows us to speak openly without fear of reprisal or shame. If chips are at the bottom of a wedding, don`t give up just because it`s too hard. You first went together to create a happy space for you and your spouse.
You stumble, but you rise together, hand in hand – this is the quintessence of a happy marriage. And you don`t get married, you work to make your marriage happy. As every marriage has its tensions, it is not a question of avoiding it, but of knowing how to manage it. Conflict can lead to a process that develops unity or isolation. You and your spouse must choose how you will behave in the event of a conflict. Silent treatment, resistance to your spouse`s point of view and choices, passive-aggressive behavior, choosing an inappropriate time and place to conduct the conversation, and a sense of threat in your voice – all of this contributes to marital conflicts. 2. Consider marriage as a lifelong obligation, just as Christ is eternally attached to his bride, the Church. Some marital conflicts never seem to be resolved. This situation makes couples keep arguing about the same thing. But this is not necessarily the case. Most conflicts can be resolved if a consistent process is followed.
Maintaining harmony in marriage has been difficult since Adam and Eve. Two people who begin their marriage together and try to follow their own selfish and separate paths can never hope to experience the unity of marriage as God intended. . . .